1. Your inner state alters your experience of internal reality.
2. Nobody else- not your friends, your soul mate, your parents, or the people who annoy you- can change your inner state more than temporarily.
3. Your "free will" is constantly being undermined by unconscious emotional drives, by beliefs held and decisions made in early childhood, and by all the fears and traumas that you've been stuffing into your unconscious.
4. The time to free yourself from all this is now.